NOT SO OBVIOUS: Okay so do you remember how school warned you about peer-pressure and how easy it is to “just say no”? Well, my advice to you is forget all of that because peer-pressure is sneaky and you won’t even realize what it was until after the fact. The best way to avoid doing something you don’t want to do is to stick with people that you know you can trust and that know you well enough to tell the kind of person you are. The last thing you want is to end up in a bad or dangerous situation that could have been easily avoided. I’m not saying don’t take risks, I’m just trying to say be smart and if something feels wrong and you know that you shouldn’t be doing something, the don’t. Trust me it’s not worth it, it never is.
IDENTIFYING: Honestly it’s really hard to realize when you’re becoming a victim of peer-pressure until after it’s already happened. Just know that if someone has to talk you into it, then you’re probably being pressured into doing something. If you don’t want to do it or you think its a bad idea, I would recommend against it, stand up for yourself.
IT’S OKAY TO SAY NO: Some people (like myself) are shy or afraid to speak up for themselves when they don’t want to get involved, but believe it or not, IT IS OKAY to say no!!! If you’re worried about being judged or losing friends all you need to remember is if they’re real friends then they won’t care if you do it or not.
FINDING NEW FRIENDS: This is one of those subjects that tell you whether or not you should be friends with someone. If they continuously ask you to do things that you’re not comfortable with, then they are probably toxic to you and not a real good friend to have. Go to groups you trust and look for friends there, it’s easier to make friends with people who have similar interests as you.
PRECONCIVED IDEAS: I know when I first started high school I thought it was going to be all parties and fun and freshman hazing. The movies have it wrong. It’s more like going to school worrying about grades and activities and maybe a few opportunities to party along the way. Just because people in movies party every weekend and drink and have sex, doesn’t mean that’s the high school norm for everyone. They lied to sell movies so don’t feel like you’re a loser because you haven’t been to a party or hooked up one night with your ex.
PARTIES: Aren’t for everyone. Not in the sense that someone isn’t “cool” enough to come, but in the sense that they just don’t interest you that much. Parties always sound like a good idea until you go and realize it’s really just a waste o time and actually quite boring. Small get-togethers with friends can be fun, but it doesn’t have to be a big event. If you don’t want to go to parties, then don’t. Its not like some unspoken high school requirement.
WHEN YOU DO SAY NO: Don’t let other bring you down or call you names for rejecting them. It is more than okay to stand up for yourself and what you believe is right. Just remember that you have no one to answer to accept for yourself, so do what you want.
VENT: If you start to feel overwhelmed with choices and you don’t know right from wrong anymore, find someone you trust and let it out. It’s always better to vent than to try and handle it all yourself. If you feel like you don’t have anyone to talk to then come to me, I will be more than willing to help you with your problems, or just listen if that’s what you need. whether you have someone, or you need to talk to me, just let it all out.